Remembering

A long time ago, I was in an unhealthy relationship that left me less than whole when it ended. I didn't know who I was. My individuality was chopped off to fit in the image of his ideal girlfriend.

I vowed to never again allow myself to be treated that way... and I have not ever since. I guess, in some ways I'm lucky. That experience made me realise how easy it is to be confused and consumed by 'love'.

Nowadays, I believe that if someone loves you...

They want the best for you
They will be your biggest cheerleader
They will always be there
They make time
They recognise you as a top priority
They listen
They care about your feelings
They give you the freedom to explore yourself
They encourage you to be the best tht you can be

This is love at it's greatest.

However, if 'love' for you means crying yourself to sleep, starving to be skinny, feeling constantly insecure, having to put up with substandard treatment... then my friend, that is not love but instead an ugly emotional imposter.

Before I sleep tonight, I'm gonna pray n hope that all those stuck in bad relationships get the perfect and pure kinda love that everyone is entitled to.

- Posted from my iPhone